Help Others to Help Yourself
The Picture Above Has Two Meanings
First Meaning:
When we encounter children we must remember to help them all we can to avoid or escape highly traumatic situations. If they are being abused or bullied, we need to do whatever is necessary to make sure they do not return to that situation. If they are cold and naked, we need to clothe them. If they are hungry, we need to feed them. If they need medical care, we need to ensure they receive it. Children deserve to be educated, respected and loved.
Second Meaning:
When you began your travels toward healing, who did you have to support you besides your therapist?
I had no one, and I’m sure many of you didn’t either.
I desperately wanted someone to help me understand what was happening to me, but there was no one to be had. I cried myself to sleep many nights wishing I had someone to aid me in understanding my DID issues and to walk me through some of the toughest times.
Perhaps the loneliness I faced walking the path to healing alone is the biggest reason I post these pieces and reach out to those who find themselves dealing with dissociative identity disorder and childhood trauma. I want to make the burden and journey less painful for others, and in turn, I am helping myself.
You see one thing I have learned in these past two years of writing In a Nutshell that when I write posts to help others, the sense of accomplishment and deep satisfaction I receive from sharing my own healing journey with others has built my self-esteem and made my heart lighter.
Now Its Your Turn
I know that it is easy to get caught up in your trauma and your past. I’ve been there. However, perhaps it is time for you to choose a different path. Why not try to reach out to others who are hurting and share what you have learned.
The inner-power and satisfaction you will receive will propel you forward at a pace you never thought possible as you strive for healing.
You will find that walking with someone else down the road to healing and being a beacon to light the way for someone else will also shed a lovely glow on you and your life.
I can promise that.
“I’ve learned that fear limits you and your vision. It serves as blinders to what may be just a few steps down the road for you. The journey is valuable, but believing in your talents, your abilities, and your self-worth can empower you to walk down an even brighter path. Transforming fear into freedom – how great is that?”
~ Soledad O’Brien
Be sure to check out my new series about DID on YouTube! I’ve only made one video so far, but I’m hoping to make one every Sunday.
Well Stated, Shirley!!!
Thanks Lari
Thank you for producing your video on Healing, Shirley!
I relate in many was! Entered therapy in April of 1988; diagnosed with MPD (DID) in Oct/Nov of 1990. From sometime in 1990 until sometime in 1993, was seeing the first therapist as well as the second therapist that the first therapist referred me to and saw them both weekly for those 3 years. Then in 2001, quit therapy and went back to the second therapist in June of 2007 and stayed with that therapist until 2011 and quit therapy, again. That therapist said that I would be back – I did not like that.
Well, in May of 2017, I went back to therapy and am making progress. I will not leave until I/We are as well as We/I can be!
Wow. Yes, sometimes it takes time and maturity before we begin to heal from this stuff. Hey, Lari, what topics would you like me to make videos about for my video series?