Author: Shirley J. Davis

There are two basic facts about life that many people either were never taught or they try to say do not apply to themselves: Life isn’t easy and life isn’t fair. These two concepts are true for everyone, no matter your financial status, your ethnic background, your sexual orientation,...

Chronic pain and a healthy lifestyle are seemingly going hand in hand. Pain can drastically reduce your quality of life and reduce your ability to carry out daily tasks that you need to do alone. With over 20% of adults over the age of 18 living with chronic pain,...

This article includes an honest discussion about self-harming behavior, a topic that is highly triggering to some. Caution is advised.   Self-harm is something people do when they are so overwhelmed by emotions that they do not know what to do. Indeed, self-harming behavior does bring a measure of...

We all have days when the couch looks a lot more appealing than any workout mat. Staying motivated can be a bit of a challenge, especially when you’re just starting out or you have had a tough therapy session. Motivation is never something you have or don’t have. It...

Your appearance has a huge effect your mood and ability to heal from the trauma of dissociative identity disorder. So, it makes sense that you might need to take steps to help yourself. Can you imagine a world without mirrors, a world without cameras? There would presumably be downsides...

As if living with dissociative identity disorder weren’t enough, many survivors, including myself, also live in the hades of generalized or some other type of anxiety disorder. In this piece, I’m not just going to tell you about surviving despite generalized anxiety disorder, but also a little about how...

When you feel good about your smile, your overall self-confidence has the power to skyrocket to new levels. Your smile is something that most people will notice when they first meet you, so what can you do to make the best possible first impression? Whether you’re staying on top...

Postpartum depression doesn’t always show up as people expect it to. It isn’t just crying or feeling sad. Sometimes it’s the complete loss of motivation. During this time in your life, it’s so incredibly difficult to manage stress.  You’re sleep deprived, there’s been a massive drop in hormones, you’re...

Everyone experiences trauma at some time in their lives. Someone dies, you have a car wreck, or some other unexpected event rocks your world. Yet, most people can move through the pain and into the future.   When complex trauma occurs in childhood, survivors are changed in numerous ways,...

Your appearance is obviously always going to be an important thing to you, and it’s something that you will want to make sure you are paying attention to. The fact is that we all want to look our best, and to be as happy as possible with how we...

If there is one thing people with DID know, it is rejection. Indeed, rejection is at the heart of why we formed dissociative identity disorder. We desperately needed an adult to love and accept us, but instead, we were treated with anger and used as toys for their pleasure....

Life can be a total whirlwind and between dealing with family, your career, social obligations and your own hobbies, finding time to look after yourself in a meaningful way is not the easiest! When we talk about looking after yourself, we don’t just mean running a nice bath (though,...