Author: Shirley J. Davis

How and Why the Host  Goes Dormant

Those with dissociative identity disorder (DID) have become accustomed to hearing and working with their alters. Alters have become integral to who they are and work hard to bring them the love and dignity they deserve.   There can be little more daunting situation than for an alter to...

Polyfragmented Dissociative Identity Disorder

Dissociative identity disorder (DID) is a relatively rare and enigmatic condition caused by extreme and repeated childhood trauma. Those who live with DID face an overwhelming sense of being more than one person, although they are really one person whose personality did not merge correctly.   This article will...

Gatekeeper Alters

The definition of dissociative identity disorder (DID) is that people living with it have alternative selves, or alters, that are parts of themselves caught in trauma-time. These alters have differing tastes, thoughts, and emotions and fulfill many roles.   One such role of alters is the gatekeeper, of which...

Showing Yourself Acceptance and Compassion

Accepting oneself with all your flaws is part of being mentally healthy. However, often survivors are their own worst critics picking themselves apart and holding themselves back from experiencing life to the fullest.   This article will focus on self-compassion and how to become more self-accepting.   A Refresher:...

Defeating the Fawn Response  

Most people recognize the fight/flight and freeze from articles they have read or television programs. Fight/flight/freeze occurs when you feel endangered, whether or not that danger is real. However, many have not heard of the fawn response to complex trauma.   This article will focus on the fawn response,...

Shame

We’ve all experienced shame at some time in our lifetime. When we do something wrong and feel that twang of guilt when we are punished, we are experiencing shame.   This article will focus on shame and how it can be detrimental to our mental health.   What is...

Defeating Complex Trauma with Self-compassion

No one is harder on a survivor of complex trauma than the survivor. Survivors feel they are a burden, are unable to have a voice for themselves, or feel shame. Also, survivors often lack trust in who they are and believe no one is trustworthy.   This article will...

Dissociative Fugue

People living with dissociative identity disorder are prone to many phenomena you may not have heard about. One of these experiences is known as dissociative fugue.   This article will focus on dissociative fugue, its symptoms, causes, and treatment.   What is Dissociative Fugue?     Dissociative fugue or...

The Problem of Misdiagnosis with Dissociative Identity Disorder

Finding a mental health professional who is a good fit is difficult for anyone. However, if you have dissociative identity disorder as I do, the chances of finding a therapist or psychiatrist who knows how to treat DID are minimal.   Dissociative identity disorder affects 1-2% of the population,...

The Tragedy of Never Feeling Safe

Growing up in a dysfunctional home, many who have developed complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) did not have the emotional or physical support they needed from their parents.   Often, as children, survivors were left with an internal and eternal feeling of being unsafe because of the trauma they...

Grief and Anger

Anger and grief are two powerful emotions that often accompany one another. All humans feel anger and grief, but survivors of childhood trauma seem to experience it throughout their adult lives. If left untreated, such strong emotions, if left unexpressed, endanger one’s health and relationships. Repressed anger is a...

Feeling the Anger, You Were Denied in Childhood

Anger is a healthy emotion that all humans experience. Anger is a way for us to tell if we are in danger and allows us to respond quickly.   Much has been written about anger and how it is sometimes repressed because it is not safe to express it,...