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Who Speaks for the Children?

This piece concentrates on how much we as a society (and yes, we survivors too) concentrate so much on our own problems that we forget the weakest among us, the children. It is time to ask ourselves the hard questions and find the hard answers to the harm our children are experiencing every day that seems to get worse as the years go by.

The greatest weapon a pedophile has is the silence that surrounds their crime. We, as a society, would rather turn our heads and pretend it doesn’t happen, then to answer the cries of our most innocent and powerless citizens.

Having survived such treatment as a child, I understand all too well the heartache and fear that accompanies being hurt repeatedly by the people who you love, and who should be taking care of you.

When, as an adult, I began searching for help from my family, friends, and coworkers, I was met with a wall of denial and silence. As I struggled to gain a handle on my life that had been shattered by neglect and abuse, I began to ask the question, “Who speaks for the children?”

I know that speaking about this horrible crime against humanity is uncomfortable and miserable. There is a part of every human that wants to believe that torture and abuse of children simply cannot be real.

We would rather believe that the victims are themselves the perpetrators, lying to gain attention money.

However, who would want to willingly face the ostracism of all they know, just to tell a fantastic lie. Also, the chances of winning a monetary award for fabricating tales are slim to none.

The losses faced by adult survivors are only now being studied and acknowledged. However, I put it to you that all this grief and pain could have been prevented if someone had spoken up for them when they were children.

Had someone had stepped in early in my life, and taken the necessary steps to protect me, I would not have needed thirty years of psychotherapy. I need not have lost relationships, jobs and opportunities. Life would have been radically different.

Who speaks for the children?


Who will not turn their heads when they suspect abuse?

Who will stop looking away from children who are misbehaving in school?

Who will ask the question, ”Is there a reason for her/him to be sitting alone not playing with the other kids?”

The questions are hard because sometimes the reasons behind a child’s strange or disturbing behavior are ugly.

When some children are born, the people who are supposed to care for their needs, abuse that privilege. Suffice it to say, the trauma caused by these events changes their ability to form a cohesive personality, and they begin to dissociate at an age eventually forming dissociative identity disorder.

The abuse often involves torture, rape, and many other unmentionable things. These children are withdrawn, quiet, and yet doctors, specialists, nurses, other family members or teachers never ask themselves the hard question, “What could be making them act this way?”

Sadly, no one cares.

Who will speak up for the children?    

Abused children often have a terrible time in school. They can’t sit still, are disruptive, and get in fights with his teachers. At home, they awaken at night screaming in terror.

No teacher, doctor, or school principal ever asked the hard question, “What is going on with this child?” Instead, they become labeled a ‘problem child’, and this reputation gets passed from grade to grade.

Their behavior at school and elsewhere is a cry for help, but no one listens.

Who will speak for the children?

The long-lasting effects of the mistreatment of children are horrendous. Some go on to treat their children as they have been treated, while others end up in the criminal justice system because they use drugs and/or alcohol to numb out what had been their reality.

Who will speak for the children?


Are we all deaf? Can’t we hear the desperate cries of the kids who are helpless to change the horror they live through every day?

Are we numb? Do we not care what happens to the wee ones in the night?

Are we like the people of Nazi Germany? Turning our heads and pretending we don’t see, even when the ashes of innocent victims are falling from the sky all around us?

Who will speak for the children?

This piece was intended to shake people out of their complacency. I’m not advocating for horrible things to be done to perpetrators, that would be self-defeating.

What I am advocating for is for the citizens of the world to stop looking away, and to become part of the solution.

We must take a hard look at what is happening to the innocents all around us and open a dialogue that is truthful and non-judgmental. What good will trying to place the blame on others going to do for the children who are hungry and struggling to remain sane and alive? No, without finger-pointing, we must speak up in public about pedophilia, and child abuse.

We must do research to see if there is a way to help those who commit such horrendous crimes against humanity and ways to aid those for whom salvation from their nightmare lives is coming too late.

Who will speak for the children?

Will you?

“There can be no keener revelation of a society’s soul than the way in which it treats its children.” Nelson Mandela

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