Happy Thanksgiving!

It is time for my annual Thanksgiving funny page. Enjoy!           “What did the turkey say to the turkey hunter on Thanksgiving Day?” “Quack, Quack!” “Why did the farmer have to separate the chicken and the turkey?” “He sensed fowl play.” “What key has legs...

Gratitude and The Trauma-Sensitive Approach

Thanksgiving is upon us and with it comes people sharing a meal and discussing how grateful they are for their lives and their loved ones. However, it is vital to understand that not everyone is grateful, but they feel pain in its place.   This article will explore a...

Complex Trauma, False Gratitude, and Letting Go

In the first article of this series, we focused on toxic positivity and gratitude shaming. We spoke about how while gratitude is an important part of our life; it is unnecessary to be grateful for the harmful things that have happened to us such as childhood trauma. This article...

NEW BOOK CHILD ALTERS!!!

  By requests from you my readers I have written a book about Child Alters! You can find it on Amazon.com in both paperback and Kindle formats. Just follow the link below. Thank you for reading my blog and being so loyal! Shirley   https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B09LWX8MY6?pf_rd_r=1828DKY1E1F4QNFV4WAE&pf_rd_p=1ab92b69-98d7-4842-a89b-ad387c54783f&pd_rd_r=d1402376-24e9-4881-95a0-dd14dc428826&pd_rd_w=9EyUc&pd_rd_wg=nJX18&ref_=pd_gw_unk...

Must I Be Grateful? Toxic Positivity and Gratitude Shaming

Check out this article and many like it on CPTSD Foundation’s website at https://www.cptsdfoundation.org   November is the month of Thanksgiving; a month to look at one’s life and be grateful for what we have. Over turkey and the fixings, we are supposed to sit around a table Norman Rockwell...

Healing from Having Alcoholic Parents

In previous articles, we have discussed how growing up in an alcoholic or other dysfunctional home changes the lives of the children involved forever. Alcoholism is a family disease that affects everyone and harms children.   Unfortunately, many who have developed dissociative identity disorder faced alcoholic related abuse. In...

Catastrophic Thinking

Have you ever found yourself believing the worst about a situation that may or may not have happened? For instance, you call home from work, and your partner doesn’t answer. Immediately you begin to believe that there has been a horrible accident, and you just don’t know about it...

A Better Understanding of Alcoholism

Many of us who live with dissociative identity disorder lived in homes that were dysfunctional because of alcoholism. Therefore, I feel comfortable posting this article I wrote for the Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder website.   Alcohol use disorder, which includes alcoholism, is a pattern of behavior where the person...

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Children of Dysfunctional Homes

Children growing up in alcoholic or other dysfunctional homes struggle to find their identity in adulthood. They have most likely formed complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) and live with an inner turmoil that matches the instability they are experiencing from parents who are occupied with their own problems.  ...

Understanding Betrayal Trauma

Children are entirely dependent upon their caregivers for everything, food, clothing, reassurance, and mental stability. When this dependence is broken by abuse, children feel rejected and struggle for any attention the child can gain from their caregivers.   This phenomenon is known as betrayal trauma, where the child depends...