Changing Cognitive Distortions to Make Good Memories

Survivors of complex trauma, especially those who have formed dissociative identity disorder, often see the world as a horrendous place where there is only pain and sorrow. It is very difficult for people like us to step back and see the trees for the forest.   During this season...

Building Better Memories

If you are a survivor of trauma and live with dissociative identity disorder (DID), you have a ton of terrible memories of what happened to you. These memories are haunting apparitions that have controlled how you handle your life. Currently, your life is probably full of flashbacks, self-loathing, and...

Growing Older with Dissociative Identity Disorder

I turned 61 last September (2021) and have been looking back at how far I have come in my healing journey. After thirty-plus years of treatment, you might think I should be healed by now. For the most part, I am, but I still need maintenance visits with my...

The Choice of Gratitude

The current series, because it is November, has focused on gratitude. We have explored together topics such as toxic positivity and its effect on survivors of complex trauma. We have discovered that gratitude, when experienced without guilt or shame, is healthy and can aid in the healing process.  ...

The Importance of Self-Love

The topic of self-love often makes survivors cringe as they cannot seem to understand that it is okay to love oneself. Self-love is one of the most important things you can do to overcome the negative effects of dissociative identity disorder (DID).   In this article together we will...

Happy Thanksgiving!

It is time for my annual Thanksgiving funny page. Enjoy!           “What did the turkey say to the turkey hunter on Thanksgiving Day?” “Quack, Quack!” “Why did the farmer have to separate the chicken and the turkey?” “He sensed fowl play.” “What key has legs...

Gratitude and The Trauma-Sensitive Approach

Thanksgiving is upon us and with it comes people sharing a meal and discussing how grateful they are for their lives and their loved ones. However, it is vital to understand that not everyone is grateful, but they feel pain in its place.   This article will explore a...

Complex Trauma, False Gratitude, and Letting Go

In the first article of this series, we focused on toxic positivity and gratitude shaming. We spoke about how while gratitude is an important part of our life; it is unnecessary to be grateful for the harmful things that have happened to us such as childhood trauma. This article...

Must I Be Grateful? Toxic Positivity and Gratitude Shaming

Check out this article and many like it on CPTSD Foundation’s website at https://www.cptsdfoundation.org   November is the month of Thanksgiving; a month to look at one’s life and be grateful for what we have. Over turkey and the fixings, we are supposed to sit around a table Norman Rockwell...

Healing from Having Alcoholic Parents

In previous articles, we have discussed how growing up in an alcoholic or other dysfunctional home changes the lives of the children involved forever. Alcoholism is a family disease that affects everyone and harms children.   Unfortunately, many who have developed dissociative identity disorder faced alcoholic related abuse. In...

Catastrophic Thinking

Have you ever found yourself believing the worst about a situation that may or may not have happened? For instance, you call home from work, and your partner doesn’t answer. Immediately you begin to believe that there has been a horrible accident, and you just don’t know about it...

A Better Understanding of Alcoholism

Many of us who live with dissociative identity disorder lived in homes that were dysfunctional because of alcoholism. Therefore, I feel comfortable posting this article I wrote for the Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder website.   Alcohol use disorder, which includes alcoholism, is a pattern of behavior where the person...