Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse

Many of us have heard of codependency and narcissism. Codependency is when two people are locked in a life where they feed off on another, causing mental anguish. Narcissism is when one of the pair is self-centered, arrogant, and lacks empathy for their partner.   In this article, we...

The Beauty of Self-Discovery

There is a lot of talk today about finding yourself and being true to yourself.   But what if you have dissociative identity disorder and have spent your entire life hating who you are? What then? How on earth do you change the attitude that you hold stating you...

Common Myths Surrounding Dissociative Identity Disorder

I am going to my brothers for Christmas and wanted to post something interesting to my site before I go. This piece has been published before here on Learnaboutdid.com, but I thought it worthy of a reprint. You all try to have a good holiday. Remember, you are not...

Changing Cognitive Distortions to Make Good Memories

Survivors of complex trauma, especially those who have formed dissociative identity disorder, often see the world as a horrendous place where there is only pain and sorrow. It is very difficult for people like us to step back and see the trees for the forest.   During this season...

Building Better Memories

If you are a survivor of trauma and live with dissociative identity disorder (DID), you have a ton of terrible memories of what happened to you. These memories are haunting apparitions that have controlled how you handle your life. Currently, your life is probably full of flashbacks, self-loathing, and...

Growing Older with Dissociative Identity Disorder

I turned 61 last September (2021) and have been looking back at how far I have come in my healing journey. After thirty-plus years of treatment, you might think I should be healed by now. For the most part, I am, but I still need maintenance visits with my...

The Choice of Gratitude

The current series, because it is November, has focused on gratitude. We have explored together topics such as toxic positivity and its effect on survivors of complex trauma. We have discovered that gratitude, when experienced without guilt or shame, is healthy and can aid in the healing process.  ...

The Importance of Self-Love

The topic of self-love often makes survivors cringe as they cannot seem to understand that it is okay to love oneself. Self-love is one of the most important things you can do to overcome the negative effects of dissociative identity disorder (DID).   In this article together we will...

Happy Thanksgiving!

It is time for my annual Thanksgiving funny page. Enjoy!           “What did the turkey say to the turkey hunter on Thanksgiving Day?” “Quack, Quack!” “Why did the farmer have to separate the chicken and the turkey?” “He sensed fowl play.” “What key has legs...

Gratitude and The Trauma-Sensitive Approach

Thanksgiving is upon us and with it comes people sharing a meal and discussing how grateful they are for their lives and their loved ones. However, it is vital to understand that not everyone is grateful, but they feel pain in its place.   This article will explore a...

Complex Trauma, False Gratitude, and Letting Go

In the first article of this series, we focused on toxic positivity and gratitude shaming. We spoke about how while gratitude is an important part of our life; it is unnecessary to be grateful for the harmful things that have happened to us such as childhood trauma. This article...

Must I Be Grateful? Toxic Positivity and Gratitude Shaming

Check out this article and many like it on CPTSD Foundation’s website at https://www.cptsdfoundation.org   November is the month of Thanksgiving; a month to look at one’s life and be grateful for what we have. Over turkey and the fixings, we are supposed to sit around a table Norman Rockwell...