From Crisis to Thriving
If you are in therapy getting help healing from childhood trauma, you have experienced crisis and struggling. Healing from dissociative identity disorder is difficult at best and traumatizing at worst. This article shall examine the four stages of going from crisis to thriving as adapted from the work...
Rejection Trauma
If there is one thing people with DID know, it is rejection. Indeed, rejection is at the heart of why we formed dissociative identity disorder. We desperately needed an adult to love and accept us, but instead, we were treated with anger and used as toys for their pleasure....
Making Rules for Alters
Alters are often unruly and cause some of those who have dissociative identity disorder (DID) problems. For instance, a very young alter (little) may want to drive the car or a teen alter may want to drive up the credit card. How do you handle such problems? You...
The Beauty of Self-Discovery
There is a lot of talk today about finding yourself and being true to yourself. But what if you have dissociative identity disorder and have spent your entire life hating who you are? What then? How on earth do you change the attitude that you hold stating you...
Common Myths Surrounding Dissociative Identity Disorder
I am going to my brothers for Christmas and wanted to post something interesting to my site before I go. This piece has been published before here on Learnaboutdid.com, but I thought it worthy of a reprint. You all try to have a good holiday. Remember, you are not...
Building Better Memories
If you are a survivor of trauma and live with dissociative identity disorder (DID), you have a ton of terrible memories of what happened to you. These memories are haunting apparitions that have controlled how you handle your life. Currently, your life is probably full of flashbacks, self-loathing, and...
Growing Older with Dissociative Identity Disorder
I turned 61 last September (2021) and have been looking back at how far I have come in my healing journey. After thirty-plus years of treatment, you might think I should be healed by now. For the most part, I am, but I still need maintenance visits with my...
The Importance of Self-Love
The topic of self-love often makes survivors cringe as they cannot seem to understand that it is okay to love oneself. Self-love is one of the most important things you can do to overcome the negative effects of dissociative identity disorder (DID). In this article together we will...
Healing from Having Alcoholic Parents
In previous articles, we have discussed how growing up in an alcoholic or other dysfunctional home changes the lives of the children involved forever. Alcoholism is a family disease that affects everyone and harms children. Unfortunately, many who have developed dissociative identity disorder faced alcoholic related abuse. In...
Catastrophic Thinking
Have you ever found yourself believing the worst about a situation that may or may not have happened? For instance, you call home from work, and your partner doesn’t answer. Immediately you begin to believe that there has been a horrible accident, and you just don’t know about it...
A Better Understanding of Alcoholism
Many of us who live with dissociative identity disorder lived in homes that were dysfunctional because of alcoholism. Therefore, I feel comfortable posting this article I wrote for the Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder website. Alcohol use disorder, which includes alcoholism, is a pattern of behavior where the person...
Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Children are entirely dependent upon their caregivers for everything, food, clothing, reassurance, and mental stability. When this dependence is broken by abuse, children feel rejected and struggle for any attention the child can gain from their caregivers. This phenomenon is known as betrayal trauma, where the child depends...