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Many who live with dissociative identity disorder fantasize about their birth parents showing up and loving them unconditionally. While we all know this isn’t possible, it leads to one conclusion: we must learn to parent ourselves.   In this article, we shall explore self-parenting when you have DID.  ...

I wrote and published this piece a year ago and thought it still pertinent.   One of the most egregious behaviors a parent or other caregiver can do to a child is to abandon them, allowing them to suffer alone. The damages done to the child when grown are...

There is much interest mentioned lately on our platform of people wanting to know more about Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). This piece is devoted to exploring EMDR and how it can benefit someone living with complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) or dissociative identity disorder (DID).   The...

What is Emotional Intelligence?     Emotional intelligence (EI) (aka emotional quotient or EQ) describes one’s ability to use, understand, and manage emotions in positive and effective ways to relieve stress, defuse conflict, and overcome challenges.   Emotionally intelligent people build strong relationships, succeed in their endeavors, and achieve...

There are many symptoms that childhood trauma survivors experience, but none are more disturbing than that of body memories. During a body memory, you may see, hear, or otherwise feel body sensations connected to trauma.   This piece shall explore body memories and ways you can help yourself when...

Although this article focuses on complex post-traumatic stress disorder, it is also pertinent to dissociative identity disorder. You cannot have DID without also having CPTSD. I wrote this for another site CPTSD Foundation. ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________    Upon learning one has the diagnosis of complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD), many people...

The definition of dissociative identity disorder (DID) is that people living with it have alternative selves, or alters, that are parts of themselves caught in trauma-time. These alters have differing tastes, thoughts, and emotions and fulfill many roles.   One such role of alters is the gatekeeper, of which...

We’ve all experienced shame at some time in our lifetime. When we do something wrong and feel that twang of guilt when we are punished, we are experiencing shame.   This article will focus on shame and how it can be detrimental to our mental health.   What is...

Finding a mental health professional who is a good fit is difficult for anyone. However, if you have dissociative identity disorder as I do, the chances of finding a therapist or psychiatrist who knows how to treat DID are minimal.   Dissociative identity disorder affects 1-2% of the population,...

Codependency causes people to feed off each other’s emotions and to lose their ability to care for themselves. Codependency is a cruel dance where one person needs the other who needs to be needed. Thus, you end up with one adult being the giver and the other the taker....

There is a lot of talk today about finding yourself and being true to yourself.   But what if you have dissociative identity disorder and have spent your entire life hating who you are? What then? How on earth do you change the attitude that you hold stating you...

I am going to my brothers for Christmas and wanted to post something interesting to my site before I go. This piece has been published before here on Learnaboutdid.com, but I thought it worthy of a reprint. You all try to have a good holiday. Remember, you are not...