Diagnostic Labels Can Become Your Identity

After receiving the diagnosis of dissociative identity disorder (DID), it is tough not to see yourself through that lens. While this is a phase people living with dissociative identity disorder go through, I hope to dispel some of that tragic and dramatic thinking with this piece.   This article...

Increasing Your Emotional Intelligence

What is Emotional Intelligence?     Emotional intelligence (EI) (aka emotional quotient or EQ) describes one’s ability to use, understand, and manage emotions in positive and effective ways to relieve stress, defuse conflict, and overcome challenges.   Emotionally intelligent people build strong relationships, succeed in their endeavors, and achieve...

I Will Be Vending at a Book Fair!

I’m going to be selling my books at a book fair in Edwardsville, Illinois, on Friday, September 16. If you live nearby, please don’t hesitate to come and meet me and look at my work. Below is some information and a list of the other authors who will vend...

World Suicide Prevention Day

This post may not be earth-shattering, but it is straight from my heart.   Today is World Suicide Prevention Day, so I thought I’d write a short piece about dying by suicide.   I know first-hand how hard and exhausting working on DID issues are and the depression and...

Body Memories

There are many symptoms that childhood trauma survivors experience, but none are more disturbing than that of body memories. During a body memory, you may see, hear, or otherwise feel body sensations connected to trauma.   This piece shall explore body memories and ways you can help yourself when...

The Agony of Abandonment

Nothing can shake the soul of a person more than abandonment. No matter what time of our lives it happens, it is excruciating and life-altering. This is especially true when betrayal happens in childhood.   Building healthy self-esteem and letting go of abandonment issues is tough and takes more...

The Trauma Surrounding Outliving Your Abusers

***Trigger Warning**** Strong talk about the death of perpetrators __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________   Many of us hope and pray for it, but we are little prepared when it happens, the death of someone who has abused us.   This article will take a glance at why it is so hard for...

Quitting Work Because of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Although this article focuses on complex post-traumatic stress disorder, it is also pertinent to dissociative identity disorder. You cannot have DID without also having CPTSD. I wrote this for another site CPTSD Foundation. ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________    Upon learning one has the diagnosis of complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD), many people...

How and Why the Host  Goes Dormant

Those with dissociative identity disorder (DID) have become accustomed to hearing and working with their alters. Alters have become integral to who they are and work hard to bring them the love and dignity they deserve.   There can be little more daunting situation than for an alter to...

Polyfragmented Dissociative Identity Disorder

Dissociative identity disorder (DID) is a relatively rare and enigmatic condition caused by extreme and repeated childhood trauma. Those who live with DID face an overwhelming sense of being more than one person, although they are really one person whose personality did not merge correctly.   This article will...

Gatekeeper Alters

The definition of dissociative identity disorder (DID) is that people living with it have alternative selves, or alters, that are parts of themselves caught in trauma-time. These alters have differing tastes, thoughts, and emotions and fulfill many roles.   One such role of alters is the gatekeeper, of which...

Showing Yourself Acceptance and Compassion

Accepting oneself with all your flaws is part of being mentally healthy. However, often survivors are their own worst critics picking themselves apart and holding themselves back from experiencing life to the fullest.   This article will focus on self-compassion and how to become more self-accepting.   A Refresher:...